Any relationship tipsfor this situation?
ok, for a while me and my boyfriend have been happy. Howver, most of the time, in the past, he had stopped plans to see me, for instance..he would tell me we’d spend a certain night together, and we’d both agree, then he’d say no, and tell me he’s busy, or what not. We’v come to arguments to this in the past, because apparently, ‘hes to laid back to make plans’. Anyway, we arranged that monday night we would spend the nigth together and have a quiet one with a dvd, and such. I see him in work and told him i’d text him on monday to see what time he’s picking me up.. straight away he says he’s not sure whether he can see me. EVEN though it was a plan and we’d promised each other. Then he told me his uni friend, a girl called kirsty, was making him and his other male friend a meal. (theyr quite close in friendship) so i got angry and said ‘well if you prefer that to seeing me then just you do that’! then walked away. I dont want to text him asking to see him, i want to not talk to him, for a while. But its hard, any tips on what i should do?
also should i text and apologise? was i in the wrong?
wait until he apologizes to you, do something to get him off your mind
i hope you two sort things out x
he is cheating dump him
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wait until he apologizes to you, do something to get him off your mind
i hope you two sort things out x
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You were not in the wrong…..
wait for him to text you x
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drop him. sorry to say he is not worth it. he should have put you first. you can do better.
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Hell no you weren’t in the wrong. Do Not text, call, anything. It sounds like he is your world and you are his option. Don’t waste any more of your time with this guy, you will never be a priority with him…sorry for the harsh words but I’ve been there done that!
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do not text and say sorry. if he loves u, even u are in the wrong side, he will come and explain to u. Just wait and see for a moment.
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you were mostly right, but some wrong. if he’s like me then he might just miss his friends. friendships can change alot after being in a relationship, he might want to just have old times with his old friends. you should apologize for storming out (but only for storming out) because you werent wrong in calling him out on that
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na let him take it. my bf has a busy(very) schedule and we still manage thats how it works. you MAKE time
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You were not wrong so DO NOT apologize. He made plans with you, if he already had plans then he should have told you so. You need to show him that your life does not revolve around him and get your own life.
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You most certainly were not in the wrong. This guy keeps breaking promises to you, and that’s not right. If he is going to continue treating you this way, do you really want to stay with him? You were right to tell him off, it shows you have good self-esteem, don’t lose that. Let him be the one to come to you, and if he doesn’t, move on.
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You should just end your dying relationship. It’s not going to last very long anyway. You hate each other, obviously. Just get it over with and dump him.
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you most certainly should not apologize. you’re supposed to be his girlfriend. that means that first of all, you should be seeing each other, not just texting. secondly, it means that when he says he’s going to do something with you that he should do it.
you are absolutely correct in saying what you said. and if you should do anything, i think you should confront him once you’ve both cooled down a bit. ask him why he keeps making plans to ditch them. tell him how you’re feeling. hopefully that’ll clear things up and make him realize that you care. :]
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hes a fool if she wanted him then you should have beed invited as well. dump him .as his friends come before you .. i know its hard but do it now .. or he will win … hes looking for the other girl not you .. then let him have her .. and you look for a new guy that wants you .. not his mates .. ok .. its his lost
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he is afraid of commitment
make him think it doesnt bother you
show him its just as easy for you MAKE HIM MISS AND WANT U
he will come around you just gotta play his games right back and the next time he ask you to hang out tell him you will then later text and tell him sorry that you have other plans give him a taste of his own medicine
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What!!!!! WHY WOULD YO DO THIS TO YOUR SELF!!!!!!!!!! Yes,you are doing this to your self my dear! MOVE ON!!!! It seems to me all the signs are painfully clear that he does not want to spend time with you. He chose to have dinner with friends than spend the designated day with you that you guys had agreed on. AS THE BOOK AND MOVIE SAY "HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU" and why would you do that to your self.
Your holding on to something that is not there. Shame on the boy for not being honest with you but shame on you for taking it. Worse is he is NOT going to get better b/c your willingness to accept LESS than minimal required for self respecting woman in a relationship. You will have done nothing but show him your lack of self respect so there for, he shouldn’t have to respect you… you are showing his friends that he does not have to respect you so right now they are probably feeling sorry for you or worse they are laughing at you for hanging on.
The only excuse he has is if he already spends a couple of nights a week with you and you are just being needy and want more. If thats the case, back off and let him have the room. He will come around if this is, in fact, the case b/c right now you are doing nothing but scaring him. But remember you have to be spending a couple (2 or 3) days a week for this theory to be true.
And no don’t apologize!
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