Comments on: Should I belive in my husband when he says he can beat his cocain addiction?

By: tannerlady

tannerlady — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:59:59 +0000

I wouldn't trust him.
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By: Layla M

Layla M — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:37:59 +0000

omg!!!! u needd to leave him!!!stop letting him see the kids he might even take the kids when ur not around!!! he just trying to use u… stop.. and think.. u are not goinjg to put up with this crap.. believe in ur self.. and pray!! divorce him… hes on drugs thats really gonna mess um up.. i know u still love him., but he choked u.. is it worth it???
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By: melissa_53105

melissa_53105 — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:54:59 +0000

I think you're right not to let him around your kids, and while you can't force him to seek help, you could report him to the authorities for physically harming you and snorting drugs off your counter and stealing you money and belongings.
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By: alice y

alice y — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:16:59 +0000

My now ex-husband and father of my 2 children still has a cocaine addiction and it's been almost 4 yrs. It was the reason i left thinking it would make him realize he had a problem, but it gave him more freedom to do so. we were married for 12 yrs. he lost our house and our property, his job of 13 yrs and most of his family because of all the lies. He has lost so much stuff in the pawn shop and sold alot too. I want him to go to rehab but he says he doesn't have a problem. He never use to raise a hand to me until i left, and he never thought twice about since, so i just avoid the situation and don't go around him and don't let the kids go either cause if he can do it that easy with me it scares me what he could do to the kids. See, he doesnt remember half of what hes done half the time until the next day or someone tells him what hes done and im not comfortable with that. my kids come first and as your seeing they don't with him like they use to, if they did he wouldnt be still money from you which is like taking food from your kids mouth. Good luck
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By: Carey L

Carey L — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:47:59 +0000

Yes, you are going to have to keep him away from you and the children. People on drugs have to want to help themselves, and unfortunately that usually comes after hitting rock bottom. Right now he is using you to pay for his drug habit by stealing from you. He has choked you? What is next? Will he harm you further or the children? It is not worth the risk. Can you call someone in his family? Maybe they can help in this situation.
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By: joan_of_freakin_arc

joan_of_freakin_arc — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:26:59 +0000

if he is stealing from u, and abusing u, he hasn't beaten the addiction yet, u would be a fool to let this man back into your life, or home. he can do this because he is selfish, and the drug has complete control over him, and nothing else matters to him. distance would be smart. he has no self respect, and if u keep him he will pull u down with him.
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By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 14:49:59 +0000

Please, stay away from him and keep him away from your children. He needs help. Right now he doesn’t want it and it’s hard to say if he ever will. The best thing you can do right now is talk to a counselor about these problems. It is hard, I know, but the fact that he has tried to choke you ,which indicates that he is capable of severely harming you and possibly your children. In your local phone book there are probably phone #’s you can call and find further help….Good Luck.
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By: Liz

Liz — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 14:44:59 +0000

This guy is a full-on addict, a thief, and a violent abuser. And you’re wondering if it might be time to protect yourself and your children from the destructive effects of having him in your lives? I’d say it is!
If someone finds out he is doing drugs at your house, with your kids in the house at the time, you can kiss your kids goodbye. Is he worth risking that?
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By: crazybitch_troy

crazybitch_troy — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 14:33:59 +0000

It depends on how strong his will is. I have a lot of drug users in my family, and most of them say they don't have a problem. If he admitted to having an addiction. He has a better chance of getting through it. So i say give it a little bit of time to see if he tries, but don't let him go on forever telling you the same thing. GOOD LUCK!!!!
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By: aloneinyourinsanity

aloneinyourinsanity — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:46:59 +0000

I think your doing the right thing by not letting him see the kids right now. He is obviously on a downward spiral and is going to drag you down with him if you let him. He is a drug addict and trust me, he cant get better on his own. He needs the help of professionals. A normal, non drug using man does not steal money or belongings from his family. He is stealing because he needs the drug. Drug addicts get physically ill if they go without the drug, thats where rehab comes into play. They can slowly ween him off. Do you and your children a huge favor....have no contact with him unless he is asking for a ride to your local rehab center. Change the locks on the doors, make sure all windows are locked and change your phone number if need be. He has no place in your family unless he is clean and sober. That is unless you want to lose everything.
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