What do I do now? PLEASE HELP 10 POINTS BEST ANSWER!?
Hi,
I been having problems with my partner. This morning as he left for work I took myself off to my parents as feeling as though he doesn’t really love me.
He says he does love me but is hurt with all we gone through and unsure what he wants and if he still IN love with me.
Last night I was in bits and crying and told him it probably best for me to walk away – he got emotional and told me to stay and watch a DVD and then he was hugging me and kissing my head and all that – he kissed me on lips but just pecks – not how we use to kiss.
When we went to bed he pulled me towards him and had his arm around me and during early hours he was feeling me up and gave me a deep intense kiss and allowed me to touch him intimately and then hugged me again.
In morning as he left for work he gave me a hug – rubbing my back and kissing me all over my face and kissed me – again sort of a peck.
I looked at him and he came back and gave me a proper kiss and said love you.
I sent him text saying ‘I just so confused and hurting and I just feel you don’t really want me, and tell me if don’t love me or want someone else as you were hugging and kissing me like a mate’
He replied with ‘ I was not doing anything, I gave you a kiss and a hug and I rubbed your back not pat like a mate anyhow I don’t tend to hug my mates. Have a good day as looks loke it going to be gorgeous. Do you love X’
I since been at my mums and had to go to GP as was coughing up some blood so texted him to let him know I was scared and seeing doctor.
He didn’t reply straight off but sent me a text recently saying
‘ Sorry just got all your texts are you ok, how you feeling. I don’t know much first aid let me know what the doctor says. Love you X’
I confused now as I don’t know whether to go back to him tonight or whether to go back and talk and then come back to parents. He down too and I don’t want him to feel I don’t love or care for him.
Why is everything so messed up? 
He does love you, he really does! just talk about how you feel face to face and see what happens
your question is too long
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I agree with above, sorry hun your question is too long. Retype it and post it again and I will def answer
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We don’t want to read your diary. Just tell us what the problem is and what you want from us.
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i honestly dont see the problem! i think you might be being overly sensitive! he hugged and kissed you all night, asked you not to go! and keeps telling you he loves you!!
Whats the problem here?!
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You sound like hard work to me, chill out a bit.
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From what you’ve said above, it’s all in your head. I can’t see that he’s done anything wrong and it seems to me he’s done everything he can to tell you he loves you.
You should go and see your GP and maybe get referred to a therapist because after everything you’ve said above I don’t understand how you can think he doesn’t love you.
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You should not let anyone else decide what you should do. It is entirely up to to decide if you want to stay with him or not. I suggest you 2 go on a date. Go to a nice place to eat and go see a movie or something. That’s what me and my girlfriend do when ever we get into a fight.
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Your feelings are to mixed for me to give you a correct answer. This is something that only you can do, if you need help try praying and talking to God.
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Rephrase ur question by making it shorter. Sorry hun we can’t read this whole thing.
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Honey, you don’t seem happy!
You should do what your heart tells you to.
And when you were coaghing up some blood, if my boyfriend was coughing up some blood I’d try to get out of work just to see how he was doing, not just send a text message saying hows he doing.
Nobody could actually answer this you know, if your not happy than you should leave him if it makes you happy, but if you still love him than you should try to make it work.
Best wishes. xx
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I know how you feel. You need to do more things together:)
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darlin…the guy is acting his personality…but it doesnt mean that he doesnt love you..some men are so bad at how they show what they feel, and women take it at a wrong perception…actually its up to you..but for an opinion..go back to him..and and fix and share the moments you have together..i wish you well…and i hope the couging will stop…but be wary of life coz its short..u should do what want to do…goodluck to you.
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Yes he still loves and cares for you. Stop being paranoid. You sound a little depressed that’s all. Don’t go looking for things that are not there. We all have our down days
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He does love you, he really does! just talk about how you feel face to face and see what happens
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He probably was busy-but it appears that he cares for you-so just ride it out and see what happens. It seems to be your best option at this point. Especially if you still care so deeply about him.
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The best way to deal with it is to just sit down and have a good long conversation with him.
If you still feel that you can longer live with him or you feel that he no longer loves you then go back to your parents.
If he still wants to give it a go treat it like you were back to going on dates etc. Take things slowly and carefully until you have made up your mind or you have relight the fire between you.
Hope this helps
I don’t think you message was too long you just needed to get your whole point across.
x x x Good luck
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years of experience
The way he is acting with you is what most boys tend to act like. I’m sure he cares, and us girls have more intimate ways of showing our love. He may just be a tad bit busy or stressed about something that he may not want to tell you.
I think it is best to tell him to his face how you feel instead by text, as you will be able to show him your true emotions. If he responses well, then you know that he does care, however if he doesn’t seem to care and shows no response at all, you should reconsider your relationship.
I think you should meet up with him tonight, and tell him exactly what is on your mind, and try not to get your parents involved, as sometimes it isn’t always the best idea, even though you think it is.
Tell him you love him truly (reading your situation again, it seems as if you do really love him <3), and see what he says.
Also, make sure your health is not deteriorating because of him. Your health should not be affected anyhow! Please look after yourself, and take it easy.
Good luck honey,
xoxo
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Experiences
tldr
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It feels like your trying to find faults in what he does, maybe its you who should ask if your still i love with him and if your not then its not fair to keep him
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i dont get your question i gathered you had a tif but bye the sound of it he still wants you and cares from what you set so what are you getting at could it be your just a bit unwanted and down and your looking for staff that is not there.
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This calls for a sexy party !
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If the question is what should I do then here is my answer:
I would start by making an assessment of what you want from your relationship with this person. If you want a mate then I would go see him and tell him you want the relationship to be X. You should not stay with him tonight as you need to address whatever medical issues you are having first. Tell him you are interested by you need to figure out your medical condition first before staying with him anymore.
Please remember that guys love sex and being touched. This is to the point where they will sometimes pretend to have romantic feelings in order to obtain a steady supply of being "serviced". The warning signs to look for are lack of public affection, repeated slow responses to calls or texts (this needs to be looked at over like a two week period and you must make allowances for work schedule) and lack of intimate kissing other than in the bedroom.
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Being a guy
i think that you should maybe go see him and just talk about it all. if he says he doesnt hug his mates then maybe you should trust him with that
and maybe just pecking you on the lips was because he might of felt akward or something… just talk to him about it and well try and act normal
tis a hard thing to see inside of a guys head
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Hello Sunshine,
Sometimes in love life there are all kinds of pressure both from outside and within.Maybe your boyfriend is having pressure at work and you pestering him is not good solution.be calm as long as he hasnt showed you any sign that he is seeing someone else. Talk to him calmly maybe you are not the problem.
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within me……..
I sympathize with you!! Don’t listen to the people telling you you’re crazy! I think everyone feels this way sometimes. Anyway…
You said that you’re sick. Maybe it’s just a symptom of your illness or something?? I don’t know. Maybe
Also, maybe instead of waiting for him to kiss you or cuddle you in bed, you should kiss him or whatever. Don’t wait for him to make the first move, but show him that you care about him and love him.
It might be an idea to spend some time living apart. I’m not suggesting that you break up with him – if that’s not what you want – but you might want to consider still going out, just not living together. It might be that you, him or both of you need some space.
I think you just have to trust your partner more. If he says he loves you, believe him. If he says he’s worried about you, believe him. Just trust that he’s telling you the truth and you’ll be fine.
Good luck, I’m sure everything will work out for you. And I hope you recover from your sickness soon!!
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you are selfish and in-considerate of your partner
get over yourself.
Do You work at all?
or just anothr layabout.
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I seriously dont see anything wrong with what he does!! Looks to me like he really loves you. Get a grip.
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aww hun.. he does love ya… just trust him ok and talk to him.. tell him how he doesn’t make you fee loved etc: good luck…xxx
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