Why is he not being a good friend to me like before?
We’ve been close friends for 3 years- probably the closest i’ve been to anyone for a long time. I never thought i would fall for him nor would he fall for me. We had a good relationship – nothing i’ve ever experienced. I was so comfortable with him – we could talk openly and trust each other about anything and everything (rare nowadays) and we could also laugh and understand each other. For a friendship, we were very affectionate – taking care of each other if one was heartbroken or not in a good place; was ALWAYS there for me. Looking back, i’m surprised we kept inside the boundries as friends. He was always respectful and a gentleman to me – this was truly a special relationship no one can understand except for the two of us.
Early this yr, we fell for each other year very deeply (hes always had feelings and i never caught on). We were "together" for a little (cuddles, give him first kiss) – i KNEW it would be potentially a good relationship. It was always my ideal relationship to end up w. a best friend. I could see myself being with him in the future for a long time but not at the moment. I had that "gut feeling" that kept telling me, "yes, be with him but wait. not now in your life." Very strong feeling and i agreed. I’m at the pt in my life where i want to start a foundation and finish my studies first. He understood completely and it was hard for both of us. For the next couple months after that, we tried being friends but i think it was harder for him than me. I told him back then that i would get over the situation of us not being together someday but i would never get over him.
It’s almost been a yr. and he’s not the same "friend" but rather this guy who works all the time now. I understand he’s busy but he won’t be dorky around me and if i hint at him that i have a problem, he’ll just txt me back a sad face. (every girl needs that reassurance and someone to be there for him and it’s not like we’re gonna be straight up and say, "i need you, help me.") I feel like he’s someone i can’t count on as a friend anymore. I know he really does care for me ALOT but there’s been other guy friends that have stepped up and have really been there for me more than him. He’s been normal and "there" for his other girl friends but not me like before.Why can’t he be a good friend to me?
it was a MUTUAL decision – he brought it up first saying it wasn’t the right time for him either
You sound VERY needy. It’s a turn off.
you need to flirt more
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They never do once they get that putang. They don’t have to work hard for it…..
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because you hurt him a year ago. he put himself out there to you and you shot him down. hes healing. the only way he can do that is to distance himself from you. you brought this on yourself
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You sound VERY needy. It’s a turn off.
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you crushed him. the feelings are to strong to just be a friend like you want.
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Well, hun, you rejected him. His feelings are hurt. He may come back around later on…but right now…it really sounds like he’s trying to get his life in order….
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Maybe you broke the lads heart and his heart has shut you out to prevent getting broke again.
I don’t know. The only one who knows is him. Ever try talking to him about it?
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Sounds like he’s trying to remove himself from your relationship. Like he’s giving up on you two being together and he’s moving on. The guy can’t be expected to wait forever. Sorry.
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girlie, give him time he loved u before u he took care of u & now u declared that u can’t be his beloved as u need to fix ur career , why can’t u guys be together & still make a career organise urself, one of me friend got married at 22 yrs only she studied further raised kids & earned 3 degrees while doing all that & now she a proffesor in a uni,she got good career, good family life…………….tell me one thing do you not take care of all ur realtionships …like mom & dad, sis & bro, ur freinds so why not to include him too…….by putting him aside u have invited more tensions ……………..
if u love him & respect him then fix ur relationship before its too late.
good luck.
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Wow, you sound excactly like ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS. sHE IS going through the same thing you are going through, and that I went through too.
Honestly, I think what matters is what you think, not what someone else thinks. All your feelings are on your own consequence. Sadly enough, to get over this feelings for him, you gotta stop being his friend. Keep yourself busy,so busy and try not to be alone.
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Thats what I been doing, for myself and I think I am finallly moving on. I think we will always care about each other in that special way, but he hurt me that I have lost all trust in him.Theres no point in waiting or trying something with him no more. When I see a movie or hear something that makes me think about LIFE, I think about how hes doing, and want to know how he is doing but I can only remember him as the good person I know he is. Remember the GOOD memories.
He can’t be a good friend to you, because you won’t put out.
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